Behenji turn Modern

Happy Women's Day

On the Women day celebration , I want to salute Indian women, by looking at the sudden growth of powerful confidence and individual acquirement of position in society or in other words, "Behenji to Mod".

 









When we give a glance to back 10-15 years, we imagine a woman dressed with well pinned up duppatta or  wearing  a grace full saree with well plated and pinned up. Having a shy-smile on face as somebody introduced her or holding the end of her oiled hair, pony tail, while talking to someone.

Parent made their  daughter grew up with  teaching, ‘how a  girl should laugh, talk , sit and be back to home before getting darkness. After getting graduate, parent paid attention to enhance her skills by  joining the vocational courses; likely cooking, painting, interior decoration, stitching and etc.

 Girls were too nurtured with the qualities of behenjis, as gathering in smaller group in free time and have chat, gossip and crack jokes .

The behenji was one of the most important stability in India. Her talent was the ability to suffer in silence. No matter what the indignity – molestation, incest, rape – the behenji had to cover abuse and get on with life. The Indian thali was garnished with tightly constricted , lacking individualism, aspiration, rights – symbolized an older India itself.  

Our country’s feudalistic socialism gifted behenji, a modest world broad thinking and energizing in growth of society. Reforms shook that veil , making the behenji look outside. From the 1990s, two economic determinants pushed India to modernity or becoming “mod”. 

Firstly, the boom of industrial sector, bpo, hospitality to management , aviation to advertisement and banking to management. Everywhere male domination was shifted to female corporation. Thus, the behenji began to break bounds. School statistics show young women smashing the earlier year’s academic records. Marketing graphs show growing female consumers spending more.every new cultural space – malls, pubs, gyms – shows young women loving freedom. 

Remarkable, families supported girls.

Secondly, joint families broke and nuclear ones emerged, many realised daughters would care for them even if sons turned away.

Both notions molded a powerful emotional change, parents now wanting more opportunities for their girls. This was reflected in the bollywood movies, ‘ Mother India’ to ‘Chandini,’ ‘Fashion’ to ‘Gulab Gang’. Alongside Kiran Bedi, Arundhuti Roy, Kalpana Chawala,  Sania Mirza and others  encouraged girls to think of themselves as individuals, meriting dignity and care.

Today look at Indian street, a woman is smartly dressed– usually, better than her looks, confidence stands out.